Wanted: Friend Who Can Tell It Like It Is

Despite a group of wonderful, caring people in my life, I don't have that friend. You know the one I'm talking about: the friend who is bold (and considerate) enough to tell you when your new outfit really don't match your personality. That friend is the one who will answer honestly when you ask "does this make me look fat." That friend doesn't just passively offer you a kind of stuff,maybe an advice,materials which you like the most,helping hand but tells you when you really need that in your life.

Somehow, I'm not friends with anyone like that right now. And I need to be.

Please don't mistake me--I'm not talking about a "fr-enemy," someone who says things with the secret intent of undermining your self confidence. I'm talking about a person who truly loves you and has your best interests at heart. He/She is someone who would prefer to be undisguisedly honest with you and protect you from yourself rather than letting the world laugh at you. It takes a rare mixture of integrity, love,respect and confidence to make that kind of friend, but if you find one, hold on! They're a rare and invaluable blessing.

I think the last time I had a friend of that kind was when I worked with a lady in my first office. She doesn't hide anything in her heart. She tells it just like that in front of everyone. I remember her telling me when my hair was sticking up funny or teasing me when I was wearing a completely out-of-fashion and weird outfit or even pointing out when my zip was undone on my pant. It was usually slightly embarrassing to hear, but I was always grateful! Better to be told out loud by someone who really likes you than secretly mocked by someone who doesn't. When she moved out of the office, I slowly lost contact with her. Now I really only "see" her through memories, and I really miss her. I don't think I ever truly understood what a valuable friend she was.

So I'm now accepting applications for a new, blunt friend. Interested applicants must have experience in extreme honesty, but should be kind in its delivery. Requirements include a willingness to point out tar in my teeth/dust in my eyes, tell me when my pant is unzipped, and stop me if I ever consider wearing "stretchy pants". The position offers no salary, but includes a generous benefit package and my undying devotion.